Educator Scenario: a child shares that they went deer hunting and helped skin and eat a deer.
Helpful: Acknowledge the child’s comment and express interest in learning about them and their family.
Consider: The child and family’s cultural identities and practices, any recent examples of food sources that have been introduced in the classroom, and note to yourself your internal reactions (consider how they may manifest – for example, frowning at the child’s statement because of your own beliefs).
Internal growth framework: “I have an opportunity to acknowledge something relevant to this child and their family through conversation.”
Comment: “Thank you for sharing that with me/us, I like learning new things about you and your family.”
Educator Scenario: A child comments about another child’s skin color being different.
Helpful: Acknowledge the difference in skin color among all children and adults in the classroom – do not single out the child that was referenced. Instead answer in a developmentally appropriate way.
Consider: Your ability to navigate conversations about identity and the ability of pre-school aged children to understand adult concepts. Develop an ongoing proactive approach that inspires self-worth and value in all children while encouraging inquiry and discussion.
Growth framework: “I have an opportunity to encourage developmentally appropriate conversations about differences among people and create opportunities to have authentic and supportive conversations about things children notice.”
Comment: “Everyone in our classroom has individual skin, hair, and eye colors. If we were all them same, it sure would be tough to know who is who. I am glad that each of you is just the way you are!”
Educator Experience: “Its Konner with a K”
“Konner with a K” entered my life mid-school year by showing up as an unregistered student without an adult or paperwork, getting off the bus and announcing, “I am Konner with a K” – a phrase he would repeat every time he said his name. After repeatedly saying this to me, I eventually responded in frustration, “I got it. Konner with a K!”
Upon further investigation, I found out that he arrived in our city due to the family traveling through it from another state and their car broke down so they stayed, with only the possessions they had in the car. I then learned that he saw a school bus that morning and knew that kids belonged in school so he hopped on it and entered my life. As he shared, I realized that this was something he was used to doing and had done it numerous times in his young life.
My frustration at his repeatedly saying, “I am Konner with a K” was immediately replaced with guilt, I initially focused on what his unexpectedly showing up meant to me (more work), and not what it meant to him. I learned from him an important and meaningful lesson about names and identity. For Konner with a K, his name was his only possession that he knew he would always have with him, no matter where the car broke down or school he attended. He was acutely aware that adults may have difficulty locating his records so he had practiced being helpful with the spelling of his name.
So thank you dear Konner with a K for teaching this educator an important lesson: to always gently use another’s name.